It’s SNOWING in the Northeast. I’m in NYC and we will get about 5 to 10″ of snow with this storm. Not bad, the bad thing is the blizzard like conditions. But the weather reminded me of a song from the 80s.
Remember the song; It’s Raining Men by the Weather Girls? I didn’t appreciate that song much in the 80s. I mean I was just a young pup back then, I had no idea. But man, do I appreciate that song now. Because it DOES NOT rain men as much in my 40s. I need the Weather Girls to come up with a new song. It’s Snowing Flakes. Because that is what I get now.
I have been single for way longer than I care to admit. Especially when I’m honest of how long I have been single, I get the side eye, like “oh, so it’s you”. But I don’t believe it to be me, I believe it to be the circumstances. First I was a single mom and didn’t want to expose failed relationship after failed relationship to my kid, so everyone was treated at arm’s length. Then, once she was old enough for me to start dating again (I waited until she was 16) it was just hard. I prefer dating men around my age, a couple years younger to a couple year older max. Most men in their mid to late 30s are married or already involved in long term relationships and now in my 40s they are newly divorced or ending the long term relationship, therefore, they do not want to be in a serious relationship. So they just want to date, casually, very, very casually. And that leaves me single. Single for long periods of time. I have been approached by men in their late 20s to early 30s that are ready to settle down but being a cougar (as fun as it may be) just isn’t my thing. Unfortunately that is the age range of the men that are emotionally ready. It is such an oxymoron! So that leaves me, dating casually in hopes that the relationship turns serious but in reality, still single.
This is why I say, I need a new song from the Weather Girls, It’s Snowing Flakes. Snow Flakes are so pretty and calming when they first fall. Everyone of them unique and landing in different places in “life”. Then the snow flakes melt into water and evaporate next thing you know you’re left with nothing. No flakes, no snow, no trace that it ever snowed. That’s how the men behave in my life. When you look at my adult years collectively, the one constant is that I have always been single. No man, no relationship, no trace that I even date.
I write all this and yet I have no solution to it, I will think long and hard what the solution should be and if anyone happens to stumble upon this post, please share what your solution would be.
For now it’s SNOWING in NYC and the kids are home from school having fun and it looks so pretty right now. Tomorrow will be chaos with painfully COLD temperatures yet in a few days to a week, today will just be the first snowstorm of 2018. Funny enough, the first snowstorm of 2018 did come before my first date in 2018……
This 40 ish 